Codependency was a really common term in the 80’s and ’90’s that came out of the addiction field to describe anyone involved with an addict (includes alcoholics and will be referred to as a male) who tends to “caretake” and “enable”. They generally lose sight of themselves the more wrapped up they get in the […]
PV Mirror, Feb 5-11, 2011, issue #121, pg 21 Last week I described the a) achiever, b) triangulator, c) passive one, d) other-directed one. Now here are the next four types. Let’s see which ones sound familiar either for you or someone you know. The Conflict Avoider:avoids personal conflict at any cost, but […]
PV Mirror, Jan 29-Feb 4, 2011, issue # 120, pg 21 There is a classic book in the addiction field written specifically about daughters who grow up in alcoholic homes. Robert J Ackerman, PhD, spent his career specializing in alcoholic families and has written numerous books. This one in particular is “Perfect Daughters”. In it […]
Vallarta Tribune Nov 19-26, 2006, issue # 502, pg 26 Many people realize that they have a problem somehow related to addiction whether they grew up in an alcoholic or abusive home and now have problems with relationships or have developed an addiction. The problems manifest themselves differently in various members of the family. Your […]
Vallarta Tribune, Apr 2-8, 2006, issue # 469, pg 21 Codependency may be difficult for people to understand, but we often explain that it is the other side of the addiction coin. It is a term that tends to generate controversy because individuals/institutions can’t seem to agree on a definition. It became popular in the […]
Vallarta Tribune, Aug 6-12, 2006, issue # 487, pg 15 It is extremely important to recognize that healing from emotional pain whether it is caused by addiction, codependency, abuse, trauma, divorce, or loss, to name a few, is invariably life changing. A metamorphosis occurs as the person heals and recovers their “self”. They not only […]
Vallarta seems to have become an international multi-cultural community, which has attracted a large community of Americans and Canadians as well as many Europeans and Central and South Americans, not to mention a huge influx of professionally educated Mexicans who have also chosen to move here from other parts of Mexico. Everyone moves here in search […]
Vallarta Tribune, Jun 18-24, 2006, issue # 40, pg 17 Many of you may have friends and family who have asked “what are you waiting for?!” It seems obvious and unbelievable to them; the ones on the outside looking in, that your situation is ridiculous, that it has hit the most extreme degrees possible, and they are […]
Vallarta Tribune, Apr 23-29, 2006, issue # 472, pg 19 I have written separate articles on addiction, codependency, and relationships and received many responses and questions asking more about the addict-codependent relationship. The amazing thing that I’ve noticed about this dysfunctional destructive cycle is that the addicts are very aware of their role in this […]
PV Mirror, Apr 30-May 6, 2011, issue #133 People always ask how they can decide what to do when they don’t like the options they have to chose from; when neither are attractive. We all need to decide what we’d rather do or feel, or endure, or tolerate. Which thing should we resolve and which should we allow […]
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